With EFT, 86% of couples show improvement and 73% get better and stay better.
And here's the good news: you're already on the road to discovering the solution to take away your relationship stress — for life.
...But is this course right for you?
You and your partner are getting in the same fights about the same topics over and over again.
You find it hard to remember what love means after an affair or another form of betrayal in your relationship.
You feel like you’re the only one who really cares about your relationship.
You are scared that happiness and ease are not possible in your relationship, even though you long so much to feel connected and close.
You feel like no matter what you do, your partner is always disappointed in you.
You feel like your partner never listens to you, and you are constantly frustrated, never getting what you really need.
You and your partner are stuck in a hopeless, unending loop of frustration and anger, and no matter what you try, you can’t make things better.
Here’s The Real Reason Why So Many People Struggle With Conflict In Their Relationships:
We have all heard how all relationships are "doomed" or "built on luck" since we were young — how a true, deep, and loving connection is rare.
It's all B.S.
And it’s not your fault if you’ve believed these things, but the reality is that there are 14 proven steps that will take you from CONFLICT to CONNECTION.
How do I know? I’ve seen it over and over again.
Couples who haven’t been intimate in ages — who can barely look at each other — leave laughing, holding hands, and lovingly wiping each other’s tears.
Without needing to spend a lot of money on therapy; without taking a "break;" and without daily fighting, blame, criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing, or shutting down; these couples connected.
“Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!” — Troy
“Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you’re having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations.” — Jim
“It’s the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I’ve ever experienced” —Joshua R.
They wanted more for their relationships.
They were willing to change.
They were willing to invest time, energy and whatever was necessary to get what they wanted.
They were willing to get curious about themselves, their partner and their relationship, not just continue to think they already have all the answers.
Achieving a better relationship is possible, but it does take effort. You can either learn on your own or you can save yourself years of heartache and fighting and learn the ropes with proven steps to help you improve your relationship fast.
If you want to follow a proven recipe rather than struggle on your own, here’s how I can help.
MODULE 1: WE’RE ALL HARDWIRED FOR LOVE
What all human beings need even more than food and shelter
The one thing you’re always tracking for in your relationship
How your love style will help you unlock the key to how you act in arguments with your partner.
Why the problem you think you have is not actually the problem
What your partner’s most obnoxious and aggravating behavior is really about
MODULE 2: TALKING ABOUT THE PROBLEM
The skill you’ve got to get if you want to have the relationship you long for
Why the direction you point your attention to changes everything
The question you need to ask yourself to break through any conflict moment
MODULE 3: THE TWO SIDES TO YOUR HEART
The hidden pattern that shows up in 70-80% of all couples
How to know if you’re under-regulated or over-regulated emotionally and why it matters
The path to getting out of conflict fast
MODULE 4: ARE YOU A RELENTLESS LOVER?
How to know if you’re a relentless lover
What’s really going on inside when a relentless lover blames and criticizes their partner
What makes a relentless lover such an amazing partner
The number one most common thought pattern a relentless lover has
The secret vulnerable emotions of both you and your partner that are the real triggers beneath every argument
MODULE 5: HOW TO LOVE A RELENTLESS LOVER
The exact steps to take to truly connecting with your relentless lover
What you can do to help your relentless lover get back into connection with you
The one thing that’s even more important than not getting into fights with your partner
MODULE 6: ARE YOU A RELUCTANT LOVER?
How to know if you’re a Reluctant Lover
Why a Reluctant Lover never appears to be as upset as they truly are
The real reason why a Reluctant Lover shuts down and pulls away
The hidden sensitive spots of a Reluctant Lover
The two sides of a Reluctant Lover and why they each show up when they do
The vicious cycle that keeps you and your partner stuck in conflict
MODULE 7: HOW TO LOVE A RELUCTANT LOVER
Why understanding what makes your Reluctant Lover tick is so essential
The truth about your Reluctant Lover’s sensitive spots, even if you can’t see them
What makes a Reluctant Lover feel powerless inside
The number one thing a Reluctant Lover longs for more than anything else
The antidote to get out of conflict quicker and make your Reluctant Lover feel safe and connected again
MODULE 8: SEE THINGS IN A NEW WAY
How you and your partner’s worst behaviors during conflict are totally normal and always protests against this one thing
The one question we are always asking of our partner, even if we’re not aware of it
The strategies both partners in a relationship create to protect against feeling like their partner isn’t there for them
MODULE 9: HOW DO YOU FIGHT?
The three main kinds of conflict between couples and how to know which one is happening in your relationship
The secret benefit of the chronic fights you get into with your partner
How to navigate these moments with empathy
MODULE 10: MAP YOUR RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM
How to map your “Waltz of Pain” and why this is the key to healing the stubborn stuck spots your get into with your partner
The exercise that can help you understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts when you get into conflict
How to shift your perspective to see the entire dance that you and your partner BOTH create together
The one truth about your conflict that will transform the way you think about your arguments
MODULE 11: EXPLORE YOUR VULNERABLE SIDE
Learn about your own and your partner’s vulnerable feelings
See yourself in a new light. A light that changes everything for the better.
Experience empathy for yourself and your partner.
MODULE 12: LEARN HOW TO OWN YOUR PART
How YOU contribute to the conflict in your relationship
Why there’s no way out of conflict without owning your part
Why the content of your arguments doesn’t matter
MODULE 13: DON’T SKIP THE BEST PART
Learn why it seems so easy to get into fights yet so hard to get out of them
Why it’s not enough to simply stop a fight and move on
What dragons have to do with your arguments and why it’s not safe to snuggle until they’re gone
MODULE 14: WEAVE SOME MAGIC INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Why the magic is never in avoiding fights
How the problem is never actually the problem
The three essential steps to get out of stuck moments with your partner
The two essential processes that will make your relationship better and stronger
The two skills that will determine the quality of your relationship
Relationship Skills You Can Turn To For Life:
How to identify and transform your relationship struggles into opportunities for even greater closeness
Both you and your partner’s sensitive spots and triggers and how you can both love and soothe each other back to safety and harmony together
How to map, understand, and transcend the painful dance that you engage in together when you fight
How to get out of your stuck moments and get back into connection with a genuine repair that will last
Deeper Understanding Of You And Your Partner’s Emotions:
The one hidden motivation beneath ALL your fights
How to identify your specific conflict dynamic
What your attachment style is and why it’s the key to how you act - and react - in love
How to see and understand how your own reactions are keeping your conflict cycle going
I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recog...Read More
I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentless and reluctant lovers. And even though I had to guess what was going on from the ex's perspective, working through the course with Figs' relationship as an example gave me a MUCH better understanding of how we got so disconnected. I feel like I know myself (and strangely, my ex) better now and can move on with some clarity. I was going to give 4 stars just because it is tricky to do the course as a single person, but I think this kind of work is just hard, period.Read Less
Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes,...Read More
Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you and your partner are doing that makes the pain and frustration, but Figs has made that clear step-by-step. He also gives you some tools to relieve the pain and join your partner in a deeper intimacy.Read Less
Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to co...Read More
Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessions, then went through the online course, and are now continuing with therapy more well-equipped. The courses gave us a strong and positive framework for how to think about our conflicts as a system of inputs and outputs rather than any one person's fault. I really like that the course emphasizes that there's nothing wrong with your partner for being or doing the things that they do, and to stay away from pathologizing the other or trying to base a decision to divorce on the belief that if they can change partners they'll escape such issues. Figs makes it clear through his sessions and his course that if you don't properly learn to empathize and own your own actions in a relationship, it won't matter if your partner changes, the result will be same conflicts with different partners. His course is made up of about a dozen chapters which are driven by short videos, all very entertaining, comforting, while able to answer the questions and solve the issues that were at least front of my mind. I found myself looking forward to going on to the next video after each one, looking forward to doing the exercises, and eager to ask him questions and do follow up research. Figs provides short homework assignments that are very targeted and interesting while being relevant to the skill building. He also provides additional links to resources at the end of each short chapter for people who want to learn more. I would highly recommend the course, and of course, the one on one therapy if you can do that after.Read Less
My wife and I took the course together and we learned a lot and still apply the main tools we picked up.
My wife and I took the course together and we learned a lot and still apply the main tools we picked up.Read Less
We thought we were the perfect couple when we first met and then life happened! It was hard to seek help. But we are so glad we found empathi and Figs. We ...Read More
We thought we were the perfect couple when we first met and then life happened! It was hard to seek help. But we are so glad we found empathi and Figs. We understand each other so much more now.Read Less
I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be t...Read More
I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with me and we were both surprised by the things we learned about each other (in a great way), especially when we mapped our waltz of pain! Thank you Figs!Read Less
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Hi! My name is Figs, the #1 rated couples counselor in San Francisco. I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and have extensive training in many other healing modalities. I have appeared as a Relationship Expert on many media shows from radio, television, newspapers, magazines, podcasts, and more. Most notably NPR, All Things Considered, compared my ability to understand emotions to IBM Watson.
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