Welcome to your future!

In the next 5 minutes, I'm going to let you in on a secret that’s not only improved my own relationship, but saved thousands of other couples from breaking up or getting divorced.  It has even helped divorced couples find each other again! 

This CLINICALLY-PROVEN METHODOLOGY of emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), created by Sue Johnson, helps people feel more connected in their relationships.


With EFT, 86% of couples show improvement and 73% get better and stay better.

And here's the good news: you're already on the road to discovering the solution to take away your relationship stress — for life.


...But is this course right for you?


Who Is This For?

If you care about your relationship and one or more of these statements are true, you're in the right place.

  • You and your partner are getting in the same fights about the same topics over and over again.

  • You find it hard to remember what love means after an affair or another form of betrayal in your relationship.

  • You feel like you’re the only one who really cares about your relationship.

  • You are scared that happiness and ease are not possible in your relationship, even though you long so much to feel connected and close.

  • You feel like no matter what you do, your partner is always disappointed in you.

  • You feel like your partner never listens to you, and you are constantly frustrated, never getting what you really need.

  • You and your partner are stuck in a hopeless, unending loop of frustration and anger, and no matter what you try, you can’t make things better.

Here’s The Real Reason Why So Many People Struggle With Conflict In Their Relationships:


We have all heard how all relationships are "doomed" or "built on luck" since we were young — how a true, deep, and loving connection is rare.


It's all B.S.


And it’s not your fault if you’ve believed these things, but the reality is that there are 14 proven steps that will take you from CONFLICT to CONNECTION


How do I know? I’ve seen it over and over again.


Couples who haven’t been intimate in ages — who can barely look at each other — leave laughing, holding hands, and lovingly wiping each other’s tears.


Without needing to spend a lot of money on therapy; without taking a "break;" and without daily fighting, blame, criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing, or shutting down; these couples connected.

... Just like these individuals:

“Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!” — Troy

“Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you’re having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations.” — Jim

“It’s the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I’ve ever experienced” —Joshua R.

All of these successful people did have a few common traits:

 They wanted more for their relationships.

They were willing to change.

They were willing to invest time, energy and whatever was necessary to get what they wanted.

They were willing to get curious about themselves, their partner and their relationship, not just continue to think they already have all the answers. 

Achieving a better relationship is possible, but it does take effort. You can either learn on your own or you can save yourself years of heartache and fighting and learn the ropes with proven steps to help you improve your relationship fast.

If you want to follow a proven recipe rather than struggle on your own, here’s how I can help.

Introducing The Conflict Solution: Learning To Love Better

Here's What The Program Looks Like

MODULE 1: WE’RE ALL HARDWIRED FOR LOVE

What all human beings need even more than food and shelter

The one thing you’re always tracking for in your relationship

How your love style will help you unlock the key to how you act in arguments with your partner.

Why the problem you think you have is not actually the problem

What your partner’s most obnoxious and aggravating behavior is really about


MODULE 2: TALKING ABOUT THE PROBLEM

The skill you’ve got to get if you want to have the relationship you long for

Why the direction you point your attention to changes everything

The question you need to ask yourself to break through any conflict moment


MODULE 3: THE TWO SIDES TO YOUR HEART

The hidden pattern that shows up in 70-80% of all couples 

How to know if you’re under-regulated or over-regulated emotionally and why it matters 

The path to getting out of conflict fast


MODULE 4: ARE YOU A RELENTLESS LOVER?

How to know if you’re a relentless lover

What’s really going on inside when a relentless lover blames and criticizes their partner

What makes a relentless lover such an amazing partner

The number one most common thought pattern a relentless lover has

The secret vulnerable emotions of both you and your partner that are the real triggers beneath every argument


MODULE 5: HOW TO LOVE A RELENTLESS LOVER

The exact steps to take to truly connecting with your relentless lover

What you can do to help your relentless lover get back into connection with you

The one thing that’s even more important than not getting into fights with your partner


MODULE 6: ARE YOU A RELUCTANT LOVER?

How to know if you’re a Reluctant Lover

Why a Reluctant Lover never appears to be as upset as they truly are

The real reason why a Reluctant Lover shuts down and pulls away

The hidden sensitive spots of a Reluctant Lover

The two sides of a Reluctant Lover and why they each show up when they do

The vicious cycle that keeps you and your partner stuck in conflict


MODULE 7: HOW TO LOVE A RELUCTANT LOVER

Why understanding what makes your Reluctant Lover tick is so essential

The truth about your Reluctant Lover’s sensitive spots, even if you can’t see them

What makes a Reluctant Lover feel powerless inside

The number one thing a Reluctant Lover longs for more than anything else

The antidote to get out of conflict quicker and make your Reluctant Lover feel safe and connected again


MODULE 8: SEE THINGS IN A NEW WAY

How you and your partner’s worst behaviors during conflict are totally normal and always protests against this one thing

The one question we are always asking of our partner, even if we’re not aware of it

The strategies both partners in a relationship create to protect against feeling like their partner isn’t there for them


MODULE 9: HOW DO YOU FIGHT?

The three main kinds of conflict between couples and how to know which one is happening in your relationship

The secret benefit of the chronic fights you get into with your partner

How to navigate these moments with empathy


MODULE 10: MAP YOUR RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM

How to map your “Waltz of Pain” and why this is the key to healing the stubborn stuck spots your get into with your partner

The exercise that can help you understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts when you get into conflict

How to shift your perspective to see the entire dance that you and your partner BOTH create together

The one truth about your conflict that will transform the way you think about your arguments


MODULE 11: EXPLORE YOUR VULNERABLE SIDE

Learn about your own and your partner’s vulnerable feelings 

See yourself in a new light.  A light that changes everything for the better.

Experience empathy for yourself and your partner. 


MODULE 12: LEARN HOW TO OWN YOUR PART

How YOU contribute to the conflict in your relationship

Why there’s no way out of conflict without owning your part

Why the content of your arguments doesn’t matter


MODULE 13: DON’T SKIP THE BEST PART

Learn why it seems so easy to get into fights yet so hard to get out of them

Why it’s not enough to simply stop a fight and move on

What dragons have to do with your arguments and why it’s not safe to snuggle until they’re gone


MODULE 14: WEAVE SOME MAGIC INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP 

Why the magic is never in avoiding fights

How the problem is never actually the problem

The three essential steps to get out of stuck moments with your partner

The two essential processes  that will make your relationship better and stronger

The two skills that will determine the quality of your relationship

Imagine what life would be like, if you and your partner felt more in love with each other then ever before.

How Your Life May Be Transformed From The Conflict Solution Program:

Relationship Skills You Can Turn To For Life:

How to identify and transform your relationship struggles into opportunities for even greater closeness

Both you and your partner’s sensitive spots and triggers and how you can both love and soothe each other back to safety and harmony together

How to map, understand, and transcend the painful dance that you engage in together when you fight

How to get out of your stuck moments and get back into connection with a genuine repair that will last


Deeper Understanding Of You And Your Partner’s Emotions:

The one hidden motivation beneath ALL your fights 

How to identify your specific conflict dynamic 

What your attachment style is and why it’s the key to how you act - and react - in love 

How to see and understand how your own reactions are keeping your conflict cycle going 

Here Are A Few Of The Success Stories From Being Part Of Our Program

Helped me understand who I am in a relationship

I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recog...

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I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentless and reluctant lovers. And even though I had to guess what was going on from the ex's perspective, working through the course with Figs' relationship as an example gave me a MUCH better understanding of how we got so disconnected. I feel like I know myself (and strangely, my ex) better now and can move on with some clarity. I was going to give 4 stars just because it is tricky to do the course as a single person, but I think this kind of work is just hard, period.

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Jolene !

A great way to look at couple conflicts!

Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes,...

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Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you and your partner are doing that makes the pain and frustration, but Figs has made that clear step-by-step. He also gives you some tools to relieve the pain and join your partner in a deeper intimacy.

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Jim !

Marriage saver

Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to co...

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Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessions, then went through the online course, and are now continuing with therapy more well-equipped. The courses gave us a strong and positive framework for how to think about our conflicts as a system of inputs and outputs rather than any one person's fault. I really like that the course emphasizes that there's nothing wrong with your partner for being or doing the things that they do, and to stay away from pathologizing the other or trying to base a decision to divorce on the belief that if they can change partners they'll escape such issues. Figs makes it clear through his sessions and his course that if you don't properly learn to empathize and own your own actions in a relationship, it won't matter if your partner changes, the result will be same conflicts with different partners. His course is made up of about a dozen chapters which are driven by short videos, all very entertaining, comforting, while able to answer the questions and solve the issues that were at least front of my mind. I found myself looking forward to going on to the next video after each one, looking forward to doing the exercises, and eager to ask him questions and do follow up research. Figs provides short homework assignments that are very targeted and interesting while being relevant to the skill building. He also provides additional links to resources at the end of each short chapter for people who want to learn more. I would highly recommend the course, and of course, the one on one therapy if you can do that after.

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Evelyn Hu

Totally changed our relationship

My wife and I took the course together and we learned a lot and still apply the main tools we picked up.

My wife and I took the course together and we learned a lot and still apply the main tools we picked up.

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Fiachra O'Sullivan

Saved our marriage

We thought we were the perfect couple when we first met and then life happened! It was hard to seek help. But we are so glad we found empathi and Figs. We ...

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We thought we were the perfect couple when we first met and then life happened! It was hard to seek help. But we are so glad we found empathi and Figs. We understand each other so much more now.

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Figs !

Really opened our eyes and made a difference

I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be t...

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I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with me and we were both surprised by the things we learned about each other (in a great way), especially when we mapped our waltz of pain! Thank you Figs!

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Elizabeth !

The Conflict Solution Course is the equivalent of getting FIVE hours with Figs one-on-one.

A ($2,225) Value!

Plus, If You’re Someone Who Is Serious About Their Relationship And Takes Action Right Now, You’ll Also Get These Amazing FREE Bonuses


Bonus #1: My Repeating Questions Course ($997)


I often refer to my Repeating Question Exercise as the most powerful technology I possess.  If you start practicing this with your partner, or your friends, it will seriously change your life. This course teaches you how to be a better partner, parent, sibling, friend, and son or daughter. You’ll develop your ability to listen, share from the heart, be present, empathic and compassionate with yourself and others.


Bonus #2  The Empathi Appreciation Exercise Protocol ($997)


I created this exercise to help my wife and I get through the COVID-19 Shelter in Place without killing each other. Doing this exercise, even just once a week will help you and your significant other feel closer to each other and give you the warm and fuzzies. Other Relationship Experts have already adapted my technique and are providing theis method to their own clients and audiences. I am honored.  It worked for me and I know it will help you to.  


Bonus #3 Get 25% your first relationship coaching couples counseling session with an Empathi Coach. ($25-$125)


You may discover as you dig into the course that you are hungry for more guidance.  Some personalized support I am here, as is the rest of my team to support you.  


Bonus #4: The Conflict Solution Workbook ($397)


An interactive document and safe space to share your thoughts and feelings while exploring love, relationships, and conflict. The supplementary materials complement each of the video chapters and are guides throughout the process.  We went to town with creating this and packing in as much value as was humanly possible. 


Bonus #5: Lifetime Access to Continued Training And Lessons (Priceless)


Not only will the lessons you learn in this course improve your relationships for the rest of your life but you’ll also have lifetime access to any new training or lessons that get added into The Conflict Solution course.


The Total Value For Conflict Solution: Learning to Love Better + Bonuses: A $4,691 Value


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Here Are More People Who Recommend The Conflict Solution: Learning to Love Better Course:

Figs saved our relationship. He's the best couples counselor in the business. His psychotherapy strategy is so damn simple that it feels silly, obvious, or trite. But wait for it. Because it's the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I've ever experienced.

Joshua R.

Figs helped me heal some core wounds. I am now having a very authentic, healthy relationship with a new man in my life and I'm certain the work I did with Figs helped me achieve this. He is truly gifted and doing exactly what he's been put on this earth to do.

Michelle G

Our relationship has blossomed, our home is a safer, more peaceful, supporting and loving environment. Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!

Troy A.

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Hi! My name is Figs, the #1 rated couples counselor in San Francisco. I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and have extensive training in many other healing modalities. I have appeared as a Relationship Expert on many media shows from radio, television, newspapers, magazines, podcasts, and more. Most notably NPR, All Things Considered, compared my ability to understand emotions to IBM Watson.

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