The Conflict Solution Learning to Love Better

Your path to a better relationship.

Intro to the Conflict Solution — Figs O'Sullivan

Mastering a few simple relationship skills ( that most of us were never taught ) and you can finally feel blissfully connected, valued, and understood.

 

Imagine what life would be like, enjoying a life void of relationship conflict and stress.

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Does it ever feel like...

You and your partner are getting in the same fights - about the same topics - over and over again? Do you feel like you’re the only one that really cares and it’s as if your relationship doesn’t matter to your partner at all?

Do you feel like your partner never listens to you and you are constantly frustrated, never getting what you need? Do you feel unappreciated, lonely, and disconnected?

Do you worry that maybe you’re just too much? Are you afraid that no matter how hard you try, your partner just won’t understand why you’re so upset?

Or do you feel like no matter what you do your partner is always disappointed in you?

Are you scared that happiness and ease are simply not possible in your relationship, even though you long so much to feel connected and close?

Does it seem like you and your partner are stuck in a hopeless, unending loop of frustration and anger and no matter what you try, you can’t make things better? 

Hi, my name is Figs. I’m a relationship expert and couples therapist, and I want you to know that your feelings and this painful cycle of fighting are very common!

My wife Teale and I are BOTH couples therapists, and even we get into these cycles, so I know how awful they can be.

But I want you to know that no matter how impossible it may seem at this moment, things can change. You can feel connected, appreciated, and in love again.


... and that's why I created

The Conflict Solution: Learning to Love Better

You Have the Power to Transform Your Relationship.

As the number-one rated couples counselor in San Francisco, I am often couples’ last stop before the divorce lawyer. They arrive at my office so stuck it seems like there’s no way out. They are so angry, blaming and criticizing each other, or shutting each other out because it just feels so hopeless.

But every day I get to see miracles happen.

Couples who could barely look at each other, who haven’t been intimate in ages, leave my office laughing, holding hands, and wiping each other’s tears.

You CAN break free from this endless cycle of despair. As hopeless as you may feel right now, some small part of you believes it’s possible. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. 

And you’re right. You have the power to break free from this cycle and create the blissful relationship you’ve been aching for. 


In this course, I reveal

The 14 proven steps to go from CONFLICT TO CONNECTION!

This course will teach you everything you need to know to end the painful loop of fighting, blame, criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing, and shutting down that is destroying your relationship. 

This course is designed to be taken either on your own or with your partner. So even if you’re the only one taking it, you’ll still see changes right away!

As you practice these tools, you’ll start to notice that you’re having less fights and more intimacy. And, you’ll have personal access to me, Figs, via email, if you have any questions.

When you ENROLL in The Conflict Solution, you will learn...

The one hidden motivation beneath ALL your fights

What your attachment style is and why it’s the key to how you act - and react - in love

Both you and your partner’s sensitive spots and triggers and how you can both love and soothe each other back to safety

How to identify your specific conflict dynamic

How to map, understand, and transcend the painful dance that you engage in together when you fight

How to see and understand how your own reactions are keeping your conflict cycle going

How to get out of your stuck moments and get back into connection with a genuine repair that will last

How to identify and transform your relationship struggles into opportunities for even greater closeness

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What Others Are Saying

Helped me understand who I am in a relationship

From Jolene !

I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentl...

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A great way to look at couple conflicts!

From Jim !

Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you...

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Really opened our eyes and made a difference

From Elizabeth !

I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with...

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Empathi

From David !

Helpful - went from the brink of a breakup to sympatico!

Marriage saver

From Evelyn Hu

Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessio...

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When you enroll in this course, you will receive immediate access to...

16 VIDEO MODULES

16 FULL PDF WORKSHEETS

​INSIGHTS & RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENTS

ACCESS TO CONTINUED TRAININGS & LESSONS

​FULL EMAIL SUPPORT

​ACCESS & OPTIONS FOR PERSONAL 1-1 COACHING

... AND SO MUCH MORE!

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Course Curriculum

THE FOUNDATION

During the FOUNDATION, we will introduce you to THE CONFLICT SOLUTION method. How to best navigate the course, either by yourself OR with your partner. We will start to touch on the long-term desired results for you and your relationship... and reveal...

The number one contributing factor to a long, healthy, happy life.

MODULE 1: WE’RE ALL HARDWIRED FOR LOVE

  • What all human beings need even more than food and shelter
  • The one thing you’re always tracking for in your relationship
  • How your attachment style will help you unlock the key to how you act in arguments with your partner.
  • Why the problem you think you have is not actually the problem
  • What your partner’s most obnoxious and aggravating behavior is really about


MODULE 2: TALKING ABOUT THE PROBLEM

  • The skill you’ve got to get if you want to have the relationship you long for
  • Why the direction you’re pointing your awareness changes everything
  • The question you need to ask yourself to break through any conflict moment


MODULE 3: THE TWO SIDES TO YOUR HEART

  • The hidden pattern that shows up in 70-80% of all couples
  • How to know if you’re under-regulated or over-regulated and why it matters
  • The path to getting out of conflict fast


MODULE 4: ARE YOU A RELENTLESS LOVER?

  • How to know if you’re a relentless lover
  • What’s really going on inside when a relentless lover blames and criticizes their partner
  • What makes a relentless lover such an amazing partner
  • The number one most common self-blaming thought a relentless lover has
  • The secret vulnerable emotions of both you and your partner that are the real triggers beneath every argument


MODULE 5: HOW TO LOVE A RELENTLESS LOVER

  • The acronym key to truly connecting with your relentless lover
  • What you can do to help your relentless lover get back into connection with you
  • The one thing that’s even more important than not getting into fights with your partner


MODULE 6: ARE YOU A RELUCTANT LOVER?

  • How to know if you’re a Reluctant Lover
  • Why a Reluctant Lover never appears to be as upset as they truly are
  • The real reason why a Reluctant Lover shuts down and pulls away
  • The hidden sensitive spots of a Reluctant Lover
  • The two sides of a Reluctant Lover and why they each show up when they do
  • The vicious cycle that keeps you and your partner stuck in conflict


MODULE 7: HOW TO LOVE A RELUCTANT LOVER

  • Why understanding what makes your Reluctant Lover tick is so essential
  • The truth about your Reluctant Lover’s sensitive spots, even if you can’t see them
  • What makes a Reluctant Lover feel powerless inside
  • The number one thing a Reluctant Lover longs for more than anything else
  • The antidote to get out of conflict quicker and make your Reluctant Lover feel safe and connected again


MODULE 8: SEE THINGS IN A NEW WAY

  • How you and your partner’s worst behaviors during conflict are totally normal and always protests against this one thing
  • The one question we are always asking of our partner, even if we’re not aware of it
  • The strategies both partners in a relationship create to protect against feeling like their partner isn’t there for them


MODULE 9: HOW DO YOU FIGHT?

  • The three main kinds of conflict between couples and how to know which one is happening in your relationship
  • The secret benefit of the chronic fights you get into with your partner
  • How to navigate these moments with empathy


MODULE 10: MAP YOUR RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM

  • How to map your “Waltz of Pain” and why this is the key to healing the stubborn stuck spots your get into with your partner
  • The exercise that can help you understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts when you get into conflict
  • How to shift your perspective to see the entire dance that you and your partner BOTH create together
  • The one truth about your conflict that will transform the way you think about your arguments


MODULE 11: EXPLORE YOUR VULNERABLE SIDE

  • The three main kinds of conflict between couples and how to know which one is happening in your relationship
  • The secret benefit of the chronic fights you get into with your partner
  • How to navigate these moments with empathy


MODULE 12: LEARN HOW TO OWN YOUR PART

  • How you contribute to the perpetual conflict you and your partner get stuck in
  • Why there’s no way out of conflict without owning your part
  • Why the content of your arguments doesn’t matter


MODULE 13: DON’T SKIP THE BEST PART

  • Why it’s not enough to simply stop a fight and move on
  • What dragons have to do with your arguments and why it’s not safe to snuggle until they’re gone


MODULE 14: WEAVE SOME MAGIC INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP 

  • Why the magic is never in avoiding fights
  • How the problem is never actually the problem
  • The three essential steps to get out of stuck moments with your partner
  • The two essential acronyms that will make your relationship better and stronger
  • The two skills that will determine the quality of your relationship

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Meet Your Instructor, Figs!

Figs O'Sullivan

Figs O'Sullivan

Couples Therapist & Relationship Coach

Hi! My name is Figs, the #1 rated couples counselor in San Francisco.

I was born, bred and emboldened in Dublin, Ireland and immigrated to the San Francisco area in 1994. One could say I am not the typical psychotherapist cliché, as I was drawn to psychotherapy to heal my own emotional pain and suffering.

For myself, being a psychotherapist is a vocation that demands a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, empathy, vulnerability, honest self-reflection, and humility.

I am constantly training and working on my skills and psycho-therapeutic approach. I am not one to rest on my laurels. In particular, I love being a couples counselor. I often find it is the perfect space, not only to work on improving relationships, but also to explore one’s individual “stuff” in the process. I strive to show up with as much access to my own wounded parts as I do my healer parts when I guide clients. That way you get to be with a fellow traveler on the journey of life. If you want an old school blank slate therapist, tis not me you need. Relationship is what ultimately heals. Psychotherapy is truly a vocation for me and I am happy to share my passion and down to earth approach with you.

I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and have extensive training in many other healing modalities. I have appeared as a Relationship Expert on many media shows from radio, television, newspapers, magazines, podcasts and more.  Most notably NPR, All Things Considered, compared my ability to understand emotions to IBM Watson.

figs@empathi.com

 

Figs saved our relationship. He's the best couples counselor in the business. His psychotherapy strategy is so damn simple that it feels silly, obvious, or trite. But wait for it. Because it's the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I've ever experienced.
Joshua R.
Figs helped me heal some core wounds. I am now having a very authentic, healthy relationship with a new man in my life and I'm certain the work I did with Figs helped me achieve this. He is truly gifted and doing exactly what he's been put on this earth to do.
Michelle G
Our relationship has blossomed, our home is a safer, more peaceful, supporting and loving environment. Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!
Troy A.

As the NUMBER ONE RATED Relationship expert in San Francisco, my rate for a one-hour session is more than most people can afford, which is why I created The Conflict Solution — so I could provide you with an easy and inexpensive way to instantly get my life-changing tools.

These are the EXACT SAME relationship tools that I have spent the past 17 years testing & perfecting... and NOW YOU CAN GAIN UNLIMITED ACCESS to these tools in order to learn to love better in your relationship.

Other courses like this sell for $997 or more, but for those of you who are ready to change the state of their relationships...

You can access these tools and begin a new journey to a better, more fulfilled relationship for a ONE-TIME fee of just... 

$297

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You’ll be able to access the material within minutes of purchasing.
If you don’t benefit from the training material, email me at figs@empathi.com and I’ll happily refund your full payment.


This means you try The Conflict Solution for a full 30 days — and if you decide it’s not right for you, email me before the ends of the 31st day and I’ll offer you a prompt and courteous refund... NO QUESTIONS ASKED!

THE CONFLICT SOLUTION
MY PROMISE TO YOU

When our relationships feel solid, loving, and strong, we feel secure enough to go out into the world and explore our passions, thrive at work, and enjoy play. We are healthier, happier, and more creative.

When our relationships are a painful cycle of conflict, blame, criticism, and shutting down, we feel exhausted and hopeless. We’re in survival mode. We feel insecure, our health suffers, our stress levels skyrocket, and we don’t have energy for much else.

I want you to be able to end your suffering...
and The Conflict Solution is the best way to do it.

When you ENROLL in The Conflict Solution, I promise to provide to you, every single tool and approach that I have developed over the past 15+ years to effectively improve your current & future relationships!


I’ll leave you with this:
Why spend one more moment in anything short of harmonious, connected, thriving relationship?

No matter how hopeless your relationship may seem sometimes, you have the power to create a new, better, more fulfilling future together… one decision at a time.

ENROLL in The Conflict Solution today. You’ll be thrilled by what you discover.

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