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Imagine what life would be like, enjoying a life void of relationship conflict and stress.
But here's the good news - you already have what you'll need to Love Better.
Love is a feeling, an action, and a basic human need. Not to mention the greatest comfort mother nature offers in times of stress and uncertainty.
And it's also a skill I want to help you develop.
If you're confused or suffering in your relationship, you're not alone. It's because most of us never really LEARNED WHAT LOVE IS AND HOW TO MAKE LOVE WORK.
My wife Teale and I are successful Couples Therapists in San Francisco and we created this workshop for anyone who gives a sh*t about their relationship. We dom't just teach this sh*t, we live the lessons everyday in our own relationship.
Who: 6-10 couples Couples
What: 6-Week Online Class Series
Where: Zoom Video Conferencing
When: Sundays 8:30-10 PM
5/3/20 - 6/7/20
Cost: $595 per couple
(heavily discounted for the times we live in)
You and your partner are getting in the same fights - about the same topics - over and over again? Do you feel like you’re the only one that really cares and it’s as if your relationship doesn’t matter to your partner at all?
Do you feel like your partner never listens to you and you are constantly frustrated, never getting what you need? Do you feel unappreciated, lonely, and disconnected?
Do you worry that maybe you’re just too much? Are you afraid that no matter how hard you try, your partner just won’t understand why you’re so upset?
Or do you feel like no matter what you do your partner is always disappointed in you?
Are you scared that happiness and ease are simply not possible in your relationship, even though you long so much to feel connected and close?
Does it seem like you and your partner are stuck in a hopeless, unending loop of frustration and anger and no matter what you try, you can’t make things better?
Hi, my name is Figs. I’m a relationship expert and couples therapist, and I want you to know that your feelings and this painful cycle of fighting are very common!
My wife Teale and I are BOTH couples therapists, and even we get into these cycles, so I know how awful they can be.
But I want you to know that no matter how impossible it may seem at this moment, things can change. You can feel connected, appreciated, and in love again.
... and that's why I created
As the number-one rated couples counselor in San Francisco, I am often couples’ last stop before the divorce lawyer. They arrive at my office so stuck it seems like there’s no way out. They are so angry, blaming and criticizing each other, or shutting each other out because it just feels so hopeless.
Couples who could barely look at each other, who haven’t been intimate in ages, leave my office laughing, holding hands, and wiping each other’s tears.
You CAN break free from this endless cycle of despair. As hopeless as you may feel right now, some small part of you believes it’s possible. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this.
And you’re right. You have the power to break free from this cycle and create the blissful relationship you’ve been aching for.
This workshop will teach you everything you need to know to end the painful loop of fighting, blame, criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing, and shutting down that is destroying your relationship.
This workshop is designed to be taken with your partner.
As you practice these tools, you’ll start to notice that you’re having fewer fights and more intimacy. And, you’ll have personal access to me, Figs, live within the workshop sessions and via email if you have any questions.
I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentl...Read More
I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentless and reluctant lovers. And even though I had to guess what was going on from the ex's perspective, working through the course with Figs' relationship as an example gave me a MUCH better understanding of how we got so disconnected. I feel like I know myself (and strangely, my ex) better now and can move on with some clarity. I was going to give 4 stars just because it is tricky to do the course as a single person, but I think this kind of work is just hard, period.Read Less
Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you...Read More
Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you and your partner are doing that makes the pain and frustration, but Figs has made that clear step-by-step. He also gives you some tools to relieve the pain and join your partner in a deeper intimacy.Read Less
I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with...Read More
I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with me and we were both surprised by the things we learned about each other (in a great way), especially when we mapped our waltz of pain! Thank you Figs!Read Less
Helpful - went from the brink of a breakup to sympatico!
Helpful - went from the brink of a breakup to sympatico!Read Less
Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessio...Read More
Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessions, then went through the online course, and are now continuing with therapy more well-equipped. The courses gave us a strong and positive framework for how to think about our conflicts as a system of inputs and outputs rather than any one person's fault. I really like that the course emphasizes that there's nothing wrong with your partner for being or doing the things that they do, and to stay away from pathologizing the other or trying to base a decision to divorce on the belief that if they can change partners they'll escape such issues. Figs makes it clear through his sessions and his course that if you don't properly learn to empathize and own your own actions in a relationship, it won't matter if your partner changes, the result will be same conflicts with different partners. His course is made up of about a dozen chapters which are driven by short videos, all very entertaining, comforting, while able to answer the questions and solve the issues that were at least front of my mind. I found myself looking forward to going on to the next video after each one, looking forward to doing the exercises, and eager to ask him questions and do follow up research. Figs provides short homework assignments that are very targeted and interesting while being relevant to the skill building. He also provides additional links to resources at the end of each short chapter for people who want to learn more. I would highly recommend the course, and of course, the one on one therapy if you can do that after.Read Less
... AND SO MUCH MORE!
Hi! My name is Figs, the #1 rated couples counselor in San Francisco.
I was born, bred and emboldened in Dublin, Ireland and immigrated to the San Francisco area in 1994. One could say I am not the typical psychotherapist cliché, as I was drawn to psychotherapy to heal my own emotional pain and suffering.
For myself, being a psychotherapist is a vocation that demands a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, empathy, vulnerability, honest self-reflection, and humility.
I am constantly training and working on my skills and psycho-therapeutic approach. I am not one to rest on my laurels. In particular, I love being a couples counselor. I often find it is the perfect space, not only to work on improving relationships, but also to explore one’s individual “stuff” in the process. I strive to show up with as much access to my own wounded parts as I do my healer parts when I guide clients. That way you get to be with a fellow traveler on the journey of life. If you want an old school blank slate therapist, tis not me you need. Relationship is what ultimately heals. Psychotherapy is truly a vocation for me and I am happy to share my passion and down to earth approach with you.
I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and have extensive training in many other healing modalities. I have appeared as a Relationship Expert on many media shows from radio, television, newspapers, magazines, podcasts and more. Most notably NPR, All Things Considered, compared my ability to understand emotions to IBM Watson.
Figs saved our relationship. He's the best couples counselor in the business. His psychotherapy strategy is so damn simple that it feels silly, obvious, or trite. But wait for it. Because it's the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I've ever experienced.
Figs helped me heal some core wounds. I am now having a very authentic, healthy relationship with a new man in my life and I'm certain the work I did with Figs helped me achieve this. He is truly gifted and doing exactly what he's been put on this earth to do.
Our relationship has blossomed, our home is a safer, more peaceful, supporting and loving environment. Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!
As the NUMBER ONE RATED Relationship expert in San Francisco, my rate for a one-hour session is more than most people can afford, which is why I created The Conflict Solution — so I could provide you with an easy and inexpensive way to instantly get my life-changing tools.
These are the EXACT SAME relationship tools that I have spent the past 17 years testing & perfecting... and NOW YOU CAN GAIN UNLIMITED ACCESS to these tools in order to learn to love better in your relationship.
Other courses like this sell for $997 or more, but for those of you who are ready to change the state of their relationships...
You can access these tools and begin a new journey to a better, more fulfilled relationship for a ONE-TIME fee of just...
When our relationships feel solid, loving, and strong, we feel secure enough to go out into the world and explore our passions, thrive at work, and enjoy play. We are healthier, happier, and more creative.
When our relationships are a painful cycle of conflict, blame, criticism, and shutting down, we feel exhausted and hopeless. We’re in survival mode. We feel insecure, our health suffers, our stress levels skyrocket, and we don’t have energy for much else.
I want you to be able to end your suffering... and LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER is the best way to do it.
When you ENROLL in LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER, I promise to provide to you, every single tool and approach that I have developed over the past 15+ years to effectively improve your current & future relationships!
I’ll leave you with this:
Why spend one more moment in anything short of harmonious, connected, thriving relationship?
No matter how hopeless your relationship may seem sometimes, you have the power to create a new, better, more fulfilling future together… one decision at a time.
Enroll in LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER today. You’ll be thrilled with what you discover.