Learning to Love Better

LIVE * Online * Six weekly 90 minute meetings * For Couples

Intro to Learning to Love Better Online — Figs O'Sullivan

Mastering a few simple relationship skills ( that most of us were never taught ) and you can finally feel blissfully connected, valued, and understood.


Imagine what life would be like, enjoying a life void of relationship conflict and stress.

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What exactly are we getting ourselves into...

a class on Love???

Who isn't struggling in their relationship while sheltering in place?
Add kid(s) at home full time, what could possibly go wrong !?!

 But here's the good news - you already have what you'll need to Love Better.

Love is a feeling, an action, and a basic human need.  Not to mention the greatest comfort mother nature offers in times of stress and uncertainty. 

And it's also a skill I want to help you develop.

If you're confused or suffering in your relationship, you're not alone. It's because most of us never really LEARNED WHAT LOVE IS AND HOW TO MAKE LOVE WORK.

My wife Teale and I are successful Couples Therapists in San Francisco and we created this workshop for anyone who gives a sh*t about their relationship.  We dom't just teach this sh*t, we live the lessons everyday in our own relationship.

Who: 6-10 couples Couples

What: 6-Week Online Class Series

Where: Zoom Video Conferencing

When: Sundays 8:30-10 PM

5/3/20 - 6/7/20

Cost: $595 per couple 

(heavily discounted for the times we live in)


  • FREE Access to the Conflict Solution online course x2 ($594 value)
  • Digital workbook
  • $50 off your 1st private session
  • Learn from other couples (priceless)
  • FREE Access to The Repeating Question Online course x2 ($394 value)

Invest in your Relationship!

You won’t regret it!

Does it ever feel like...

You and your partner are getting in the same fights - about the same topics - over and over again? Do you feel like you’re the only one that really cares and it’s as if your relationship doesn’t matter to your partner at all?

Do you feel like your partner never listens to you and you are constantly frustrated, never getting what you need? Do you feel unappreciated, lonely, and disconnected?

Do you worry that maybe you’re just too much? Are you afraid that no matter how hard you try, your partner just won’t understand why you’re so upset?

Or do you feel like no matter what you do your partner is always disappointed in you?

Are you scared that happiness and ease are simply not possible in your relationship, even though you long so much to feel connected and close?

Does it seem like you and your partner are stuck in a hopeless, unending loop of frustration and anger and no matter what you try, you can’t make things better? 

Hi, my name is Figs. I’m a relationship expert and couples therapist, and I want you to know that your feelings and this painful cycle of fighting are very common!

My wife Teale and I are BOTH couples therapists, and even we get into these cycles, so I know how awful they can be.

But I want you to know that no matter how impossible it may seem at this moment, things can change. You can feel connected, appreciated, and in love again.

... and that's why I created

Learning to Love Better: A Live online workshop for couples.

You Have the Power to Transform Your Relationship.

As the number-one rated couples counselor in San Francisco, I am often couples’ last stop before the divorce lawyer. They arrive at my office so stuck it seems like there’s no way out. They are so angry, blaming and criticizing each other, or shutting each other out because it just feels so hopeless.

But every day I get to see miracles happen.

Couples who could barely look at each other, who haven’t been intimate in ages, leave my office laughing, holding hands, and wiping each other’s tears.

You CAN break free from this endless cycle of despair. As hopeless as you may feel right now, some small part of you believes it’s possible. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. 

And you’re right. You have the power to break free from this cycle and create the blissful relationship you’ve been aching for. 

In this workshop I reveal:

The 14 proven steps to go from CONFLICT TO CONNECTION!

This workshop will teach you everything you need to know to end the painful loop of fighting, blame, criticism, defensiveness, withdrawing, and shutting down that is destroying your relationship. 

This workshop is designed to be taken with your partner.

As you practice these tools, you’ll start to notice that you’re having fewer fights and more intimacy. And, you’ll have personal access to me, Figs, live within the workshop sessions and via email if you have any questions.

When you ENROLL in Learning to Love Better Online, you will learn...

The one hidden motivation beneath ALL your fights

What your attachment style is and why it’s the key to how you act - and react - in love

Both you and your partner’s sensitive spots and triggers and how you can both love and soothe each other back to safety

How to identify your specific conflict dynamic

How to map, understand, and transcend the painful dance that you engage in together when you fight

How to see and understand how your own reactions are keeping your conflict cycle going

How to get out of your stuck moments and get back into connection with a genuine repair that will last

How to identify and transform your relationship struggles into opportunities for even greater closeness

Ready to get started?

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What Others Are Saying

Helped me understand who I am in a relationship

From Jolene !

I took the course after breaking off a long-term relationship to try to understand what went wrong. Figs lays things out really clearly. I definitely recognized my behavior and my ex's as relentl...

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A great way to look at couple conflicts!

From Jim !

Figs has created an easy way to understand the conflicts that you're having and begin to do something effective to change conflicts into collaborations. Yes, it takes some understanding of what you...

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Really opened our eyes and made a difference

From Elizabeth !

I'm a middle-aged woman and I learned brand new things about myself and also to stop avoiding our conflicts or thinking that it means we're not meant to be together. My husband took the course with...

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From David !

Helpful - went from the brink of a breakup to sympatico!

Marriage saver

From Evelyn Hu

Figs' sessions and course were the things that turned the boat around for our marriage, which was pretty close to ending. My husband and I began going to couples therapy with Figs for a few sessio...

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When you enroll in this workshop, on top of the weekly time with Figs, you will receive immediate access to...

My Flagship Conflict Solution course - 16 VIDEO MODULES







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Meet Your Instructor, Figs!

Figs O'Sullivan

Figs O'Sullivan

Couples Therapist & Relationship Coach

Hi! My name is Figs, the #1 rated couples counselor in San Francisco.

I was born, bred and emboldened in Dublin, Ireland and immigrated to the San Francisco area in 1994. One could say I am not the typical psychotherapist cliché, as I was drawn to psychotherapy to heal my own emotional pain and suffering.

For myself, being a psychotherapist is a vocation that demands a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, empathy, vulnerability, honest self-reflection, and humility.

I am constantly training and working on my skills and psycho-therapeutic approach. I am not one to rest on my laurels. In particular, I love being a couples counselor. I often find it is the perfect space, not only to work on improving relationships, but also to explore one’s individual “stuff” in the process. I strive to show up with as much access to my own wounded parts as I do my healer parts when I guide clients. That way you get to be with a fellow traveler on the journey of life. If you want an old school blank slate therapist, tis not me you need. Relationship is what ultimately heals. Psychotherapy is truly a vocation for me and I am happy to share my passion and down to earth approach with you.

I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and have extensive training in many other healing modalities. I have appeared as a Relationship Expert on many media shows from radio, television, newspapers, magazines, podcasts and more.  Most notably NPR, All Things Considered, compared my ability to understand emotions to IBM Watson.



Figs saved our relationship. He's the best couples counselor in the business. His psychotherapy strategy is so damn simple that it feels silly, obvious, or trite. But wait for it. Because it's the most developed, deeply touching philosophy I've ever experienced.
Joshua R.
Figs helped me heal some core wounds. I am now having a very authentic, healthy relationship with a new man in my life and I'm certain the work I did with Figs helped me achieve this. He is truly gifted and doing exactly what he's been put on this earth to do.
Michelle G
Our relationship has blossomed, our home is a safer, more peaceful, supporting and loving environment. Our most painful relationship issues seem to have evaporated, and the road ahead looks better than ever thanks to Figs!
Troy A.

As the NUMBER ONE RATED Relationship expert in San Francisco, my rate for a one-hour session is more than most people can afford, which is why I created The Conflict Solution — so I could provide you with an easy and inexpensive way to instantly get my life-changing tools.

These are the EXACT SAME relationship tools that I have spent the past 17 years testing & perfecting... and NOW YOU CAN GAIN UNLIMITED ACCESS to these tools in order to learn to love better in your relationship.

Other courses like this sell for $997 or more, but for those of you who are ready to change the state of their relationships...

You can access these tools and begin a new journey to a better, more fulfilled relationship for a ONE-TIME fee of just... 



When our relationships feel solid, loving, and strong, we feel secure enough to go out into the world and explore our passions, thrive at work, and enjoy play. We are healthier, happier, and more creative.

When our relationships are a painful cycle of conflict, blame, criticism, and shutting down, we feel exhausted and hopeless. We’re in survival mode. We feel insecure, our health suffers, our stress levels skyrocket, and we don’t have energy for much else.

I want you to be able to end your suffering... 
and LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER is the best way to do it.

When you ENROLL in LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER, I promise to provide to you, every single tool and approach that I have developed over the past 15+ years to effectively improve your current & future relationships!

I’ll leave you with this:
Why spend one more moment in anything short of harmonious, connected, thriving relationship?

No matter how hopeless your relationship may seem sometimes, you have the power to create a new, better, more fulfilling future together… one decision at a time.

Enroll in LEARNING TO LOVE BETTER today. You’ll be thrilled with what you discover.


BONUS: Gain INSTANT LIFETIME ACCESS to The Conflict Solution Course

YES! I'm Ready!